Archive for March 27th, 2009

Groan Kids

My husband, bless his heart, desperate for news of our son, googled one of the groups we know he belongs to, and found his blog.  It makes for entertaining reading, overall, but in his next-to-last post, we learned that we were almost reading his last post:  Apparently, he came within two feet of sliding down a snowbank and falling under a moving train, working as he has been in the middle of the night.  This is not the kind of thing you need to read two hours before bedtime.  I’ve always said that my son’s guardian angel works overtime, and all I can say is, I will do anything that angel asks, if he continues to work overtime.  Obviously, this kid needs it.

Then there is our daughter.  The ongoing estrangement between her and us is a continuing, and continual, source of grief to both of us, since neither of us can think what to do to overcome it.  I’ve apologized to her (a generic apology, since I have absolutely no idea what either of us did to offend her); I’ve visited her; I’ve telephoned her.  I am at a loss to know what else to do or say.  Calling her is awkward in any case, since she’s now the primary breadwinner in her household and presumably needs to keep the phone free during the day, and I don’t want to risk waking the kids up at night.

I have to say that, nice as it is to know that they are both grown up and capable of leading their own lives — I never expected to be shut out of their lives altogether.  And I don’t know how to fix it.

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